Unselfishly-Selfish

You read that right.

I'm basically walking the line between getting everything I want while avoiding Bridezilla status. Although...that would get me on T.V......

I've always dreamed of having a perfect engagement, having an enthusiastic but hands-OFF groom and no meddling relatives, and of course, NO hassle booking the venue and setting a date.

Was I asking for too much?

Here's where the "unselfishly-selfish" term comes in. (Not sure if I made that up myself, but you can use it. If you'd like. Just give me credit if you get rich because of it!)

Picking the Wedding Party

My loving fiance, Kevin-hunkalicious-Strausbaugh, has decided to make my life as a bride-to-be a NIGHTMARE. I'm so glad I love him..... and that I decided to let him live. (Usually, I'd add an "LOL" here to lighten things up.... but I won't.)

Let's take: "How To Drive Her Crazy" for $1000, Alex!

April: Kevin, sweetie pie, can you please pick your groomsmen so I can pick my girls?
May: Hun, did you ask them yet? Can you do that? We need to get them picked. Thanks a bunch!
June: Seriously, can you pick them? Like, now? Oh, you're only having two? Ok, thank you.
July: WHAT DO YOU MEAN THERE'S THREE GROOMSMEN?

Yep. Thankfully, it means I got to ask a girl I had been waiting to include, I just had to wait for princess over here to make up his mind. I have three wonderful ladies who I will have standing by my side:

• My twin sister Jess Young
• My BFF Emily Pembroke
• My other BFF Ashley Hughes

One thing I NEVER expected was for people to actually ask or assume they were in your wedding.... but apparently it's a real thing! Ladies, stay classy... wait to be asked!! 

Setting a Date

It's the dreaded question. "When are you getting married? Have you set a date?"

Oh. My. Gosh. I guess in April, my typical answer of: "We're working on it! (Giggle giggle)" was adorable, and now.... I get that look of, "Oh dear, you do know you ONLY have 9 months left, right?"

Yes, I'm quite aware. 

If I could find a place to fit 200 people in a rustic setting and bring my own food and NOT have to spend six grand on catering... That'd be great. (True story...)

Don't get me started on trying to fit OUR wedding into OTHER people's schedules. Seriously?? Didn't realize YOU were getting married .I love being organized and planning things, but let me say that I will be very quick to tell people planning their own weddings to keep as much as they can to themselves. Do it YOUR way, and don't be a pushover. Lesson learned. 

***We are booking the venue and date tomorrow. You can't book the date without checking the venue to see what they have, which is another thing people don't seem to get. 

Anyways, I love my man, and I think that's the only thing I need to really focus on. Thanks for reading this rant.... hopefully you'll get some helpful advice from it! That would really be a win-win! The balance I'm working toward is getting what we want while making sure everyone else has a good time. Hence... "Unselfishly Selfish."

I'll be trying on dresses in late July, so excited!! That is.... if I make it till then..... wish me luck!! 

Kelly D